1) I'm about ten weeks, or two months, along. Which means that no, I'm not "showing" a "baby bump" yet. In fact according to the literature, our baby is about an inch long or maybe a little more. So that "bump" you may be inclined to point out is really just gas, fat, and uterus. So for the sake of my ego please resist the urge to coo over and pet my bloated belly.
2) That brings me to my next rant. Please don't touch me. Resist all temptation to reach out and pat what you perceive as my baby bump. Even when I start to "show," that baby bump is still ME. I'm not a real touchy-feely person to begin with, hugs are awkward for me usually, and having a cute creature inside of me doesn't change that. You would ask before petting my dog, right? So ask before petting my baby too, please. (For the record, for now, the answer will be a universal "no.")
3) Not that it's anyone's business, but no, Alex and I don't have plans to get married immediately. Unless your name is Joan, Balladyna, Clarence, Nick or Jane, we really don't care if you think we should get married. In fact, we find unsolicited advice to rush into marriage quite offensive. A baby's arrival doesn't equal a prescription for marriage, because as far as we were aware, this isn't 1952. Marriage, for us, is about committing to another person in love and partnership for the rest of our lives. It's not about a legal contract, or legal benefits or insurance. It's more important to model a healthy, loving relationship for a child than to be "traditional" and force each other into a committment based solely on circumstance. Our experiences with unhealthy and failed marriages within each of our immediate and extended families make us especially adamant about this. So keep your unnecessary opinions to yourself thank you.
That being said, the vast majority of our friends and family have been nothing but happy, excited, and supportive. We appreciate the positive energy and love you for it. We have another ultrasound coming up so stay tuned for a visual update!
Hi Lauren! It's Angie (Donna's daughter) Congratulation's!! I just wanted to say "go you" for the above statement. I just wish I had the internet/blogs when I was pregnant with Ambur to say the same thing. Tim and I didn't marry until Ambur was almost 2. So married 12 years this Oct. and together 16 years in Jan. :) A lot of people didn't believe in us but we did. That's ALL the matters. You are right, it's no body's business but yours. So excited for you and Alex. Hope we can meet him someday. Take care and have fun!!
ReplyDeleteHi Angie! Thanks! Wow 16 years is a long time, congratulations!!! One day we'll make our way out in your direction and I'll make sure he meets everyone. :) BTW...do you remember letting me jump on the bed at my grandpa's house when you were babysitting me?...I do.. :)
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